This is the funny thing about the illusion of control, it immediately isolates us from others. I think I, and I alone, have to figure things out and solve the problem. I think when things go wrong it’s my fault. If I dig under the surface of this idea there’s an ugly truth: I think I have an extraordinary amount of power to influence and change things.

I have a good reason for why I don’t do resolutions. I think new year’s resolutions imply that I’ve been failing and starting today I’m going to do better. I think that concept is laden with shame and failure.

I recently saw a childhood friend who had lost his home in the California wildfires. I asked him how he was doing and I was completely surprised by his answer. He said “Great!”

Some of us have dreams that are still unrealized, some of us don’t even know what the dream is. Let’s explore that a little further.

When I was a kid one of my favorite gifts was a Black Knight skateboard. When I first got it we lived in a neighborhood with a big four lane street with long expanses of well finished sidewalks. It was perfect for zipping through the neighborhood and learning simple skateboard tricks.

Have you had any trouble standing up to share your latest accomplishment? Who can help with that?

Do you magnify your mistakes and or perceive events as winner-take-all scenarios? Let’s talk about what you do about that.

Life’s too short to wait around for connection to come to you. Explore how you can generate more intimacy and love with an open heart and great self-care.

Instead of talking about getting rid of anger I want to outline some of the benefits. Anger is often seen as destructive, but sometimes destruction is necessary.

How do we live in the world open hearted and stay safe?

I’m a big sports fan, and like most sports fans I like to watch the post-game show. I enjoy hearing what the commentators have to say about important plays and key players in the game. So, I say this with love and respect, the post-game is kind of silly.

You know that feeling when you really let go and surrender to the unknown? It’s scary right? Read on to find out what comes next.

I’m afraid of people seeing me and knowing who I really am. It terrifies me, but I’m getting better. I’m starting to recognize that the price of authenticity is vulnerability. If I am open and honest, people will see who I really am and there’s a possibility they’ll reject that.

Seriously, we’re having a launch party for our recently published books and we’d love for you to come.

Remember the segment of Sesame Street, One of These Things is not Like the Others? It was intended to help teach children the essential skill of identifying differences in objects. This skill is useful and necessary for human beings. At the simplest level, we need to know that a shoe and boot are not the same thing. In terms of survival, we need to recognize the differences between a tiger and housecat.

What we see in the face of life’s little and big disasters can pave the way for illuminating moments. How to turn the light bulb on, in bad situations.

Jumping the Sharkis a term used in Hollywood to describe when a TV show or a movie begins to decline in its evolution. It originated when the Fonz literally jumped over a shark on the popular 80s show Happy Days. Critics felt that Happy Days had once been a clever, funny show and that jumping the shark was just too far…

Find your center through the vibration of appreciation. Explore the art of seeing what’s right in front of you to your advantage.

Strong emotions don’t need to be feared or removed. When I finally allowed myself to feel my feelings, I discovered that they passed quickly and, even if I cried or screamed aloud, they weren’t harmful.

When my mom was being hospitalized with cancer, I spent nearly every day in the hospital; I ate poorly, and hardly slept and was paralyzed with anxiety and fear. This is when I noticed my tendency to try to control my feelings to make others comfortable. When someone asked me how I was I’d answer ‘fine,’ which clearly wasn’t true. I was whatever the opposite of fine is.